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Post by Dee on Nov 25, 2009 17:27:56 GMT -5
Should couples stay together because of the kids? What are the pros and cons of doing that?
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Post by farm_yard_duck on Nov 26, 2009 7:47:59 GMT -5
In the long term it's pretty bad I'd say, the kids might feel like it's their fault if they break up later. I work with so many kids from broken homes and either way it causes issues but I'd say it's better to break up than force on an unhappy situation where the child might suffer
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Post by Devyn_Baby on Nov 26, 2009 8:03:20 GMT -5
I don't think they should stay together. You can work out arrangements where the child can see both parents, if they live close enough. The kids will see that their parents are in a better mood, and it will reflect in the them as well, so leaving them in a negative situation will not do them any good. Staying together for a child is just as bad as having a child to try and fix a broken relationship.
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Post by Dee on Nov 27, 2009 21:19:26 GMT -5
What if the mother is a horrible parent and neglects the kids but it isn't obvious to outsiders? Should the guy leave his kids in her care knowing they won't get fed, diapers changed, etc? If he leaves she would probably get custody.
Should he sacrifice his happiness for the kids and stay in the household?
What if the woman has no money and the child support she would get would still leave her struggling. Should she stay because of financial reasons?
Are there any circumstances where you think staying together would benefit the kids?
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Post by Devyn_Baby on Dec 3, 2009 14:08:40 GMT -5
If they end up separating, custody is determined by the courts, and if he has enough substantial evidence to show that she is a careless mother, this shouldn't be an issue.
If she's left struggling, then I would say she is one of the few who do deserve financial assistance through food banks, and government programs like WIC and food stamps. I wouldn't mind my taxes going to someone like that as long as they are using the resources wisely.
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Post by farm_yard_duck on Dec 18, 2009 17:03:12 GMT -5
Ditto that. In the long term the outcome is more likely to be better for the child if they split, even if that may mean hardships in the moment. The longer it's left to split the more emotions build up and a child may end up with parents who don't communicate coz they stayed together for the sake of the child.
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